Families and children, do we want them or do we want to focus on work and other things?

Have you ever thought of family being important? We all hopefully think our families are important maybe the family with our parents and siblings. But what about our future families, aren't they just as important if not more important? Let's start with a family consisting of a husband and a wife, many people I know are scared of getting married because of divorce. Did you know that the average couple headed to divorce has 10 areas of significant incompatibility, while the average couple with a successful marriage has 10 areas of significant incompatibility. You read that right, both couples have the same number, not the same incompatibility but the same number. So being afraid of divorce is really saying you are afraid of failure and if you see failure, you don't think you are strong enough to work through and try and save the marriage. Another fun fact about divorces is that 70% of divorcees after 2 years say they could have and should have saved their marriage.

Children are an  interesting topic because we say that children are the future, but we have created ways to stop having children or not have them at all. According to Benjamin Franklin, the world doubles every 20 years, yet it has only doubled in the last 40 years or so. Why is this? In my opinion it's because people are so concerned about careers and financial stability that by the time a couple is financially secure to have children, it's too late or children aren't on their minds anymore. My teacher made this comment, "rarely do we hear 'I wish I had fewer children' and most often we hear I wish I had had more children." That's because in life we have a tendency now to post pone child bearing and rearing for work and vacations. We should think about how that is going to affect our future and the future of others.